Why do some WOMEN have requirements* of the opposite , when they themselves cannot always deliver the same?

I am a big fan of Dr Laura. I haven't listened regularly since 2006 but back then she used to tell people something now and again that really stuck with me. She said that too often, people are more concerned with finding the right person and forget all about *being* the right person. And there are a ton of women who do that. We like fairy tales and we want love to be that way. It ain't. The sooner people wake up and realize that, the better.